I had this longfic planned, even wrote a few chapters, and then my motivation disappeared into a black hole and has yet to return, because, and I am a bit ashamed of it, I got zero comments. What to do? I kind of do want to finish, but every time I plan to I end up writing something else.

Honestly don’t be ashamed. One of my fics is currently on hiatus because it’s gotten the least kudos of anything I’ve written this year (the mob/assassin thorki). It makes a lot more sense to me to write other things that people enjoy, rather than spending my limited time on something people aren’t going to have fun with.

We write for ourselves, but we also write to bring other people joy, pleasure, or catharsis. That is absolutely not something to be ashamed of! Fandom has a bad habit of telling people that only “art for the self alone” counts. That’s absolute crap. There’s nothing wrong with wanting readers and wanting to please them.

In terms of practical things to do with this fic: set it aside and finish it up when you don’t have other ideas. Make a plan to work on it the next time you feel like you have no new work. Then let it go for now! You’ve got better things to work on.

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ALRIGHT. IT IS DONE. IT HAS TO BE DONE.
Goodness this one has enough detail in it that I could easily spend 10 more hours tweaking it! But I have fan fiction to read, dammit! (And actual work to do.) But MORE IMPORTANTLY–

This is for @thors-soft-cheeks and their beautiful cute fluffy feel-good Thorki bakery AU fic The Baker’s Cakes!!! I am so excited to read the new chapters, but I wanted to finish this first! This specific scene is not in the fic, but it is their interpretation of the characters.

I like to think Loki is an absolute slut for having things put into his mouth and so he is deep deep in ~*~happy subspace~*~ in this picture. And Thor of course is incredibly attentive and sweet and careful, and so so pleased to be doing the two things he loves and does best: baking and making Loki happy.

Stay tuned for my next work, which will be a CHOOSE-YOUR-OWN ADVENTURE porn story! Follow to get in on that biz.

We were at an outdoor nighttime event. I suggested getting food on the way home and the response was that they would not be comfortable being seen with me without makeup. This is someone I live with. Leaving isn’t currently an option but I feel like my whole being has been scooped out. I had no confidence in my appearance in the first place but can’t be seen with me is a whole new level

WOAH. That’s…

I’m so terribly sorry. I hardly have words for how appalling that is. I understand that you’re not in a position to leave your living situation right now, but that does seem to be the sort of comment that has to be addressed, if only for your own mental health, and to establish in your own mind that isn’t true. 

Would it work to say something like “I found your comment really hurtful. My face is my face, makeup or not. It is both unkind and unfair to suggest that I should be ashamed of it, or somehow feel the need to cover it up.”

Saying this will express your hurt, and not give the person a chance to suggest you’re somehow in the wrong. Because you’re not. What they said is disgusting and absolutely absurd. I’m sorry you’re stuck living with someone like that for the time being.

[It’s Sleepover Saturday]

Do you have any tips on focusing on 1-2 projects at a time instead of starting multiple fics and rarely finishing any (or taking a lot of time to finish existing projects)?

I actually work on multiple projects as once, so this isn’t the way that I do things. That being said, here’s my list of tips for finishing that shit

  1. Make a list of projects, or put them in a active projects folder, or write all in one document. It’s really helpful to do this, because it lets you see how many things you’re working on at once, and not keep starting things without realizing how many things you haven’t finished.
  2. Group fics by when you aim to have them finished. I have sets of “to be finished soon,” “to be finished in 2-3 months” and “long term” projects, so I can keep track.
  3. Set aside a set time to write for a large chunk of time every week. Mine used to be Tuesday, but right now it’s Saturday and sometimes Sunday.
  4. Outside your large chunk, try to write something every day, for about an hour.
  5. PLAN YOUR FICS. Do not start writing until you have a direction and climax figured out for your one shot, or an outline for your multi-chaptered fic.
  6. Tell people about your self-created deadlines. It’ll help you keep working on things, so as not to let them down.
  7. Write little snippets of fics during the day to keep yourself engaged in a writing mode. You don’t have to use them, but they’re a good way to draft and re-draft without writing entire scenes multiple times.
  8. If you’re writing a multi-chaptered fic, set a day every week you’ll post a new chapter, and stick to it. I usually pick Tuesday or Thursday between 7-9 pm EST, because it’s convenient to me. Then, I make sure that it is my top priority then. Nothing is allowed to get in the way, and I can’t let myself make excuses, because the people reading my fic are relying on it. Guilt goes a long way XD!

Again, I almost always write more than 2 fics at a time, because otherwise I get to bogged down, so I can’t help with that, but these are my best tips for finishing things. 

[It’s Sleepover Saturday]

I just came to say thank you because of the anon you just answered. I’ve seen a lot of body positivity on tumblr but you’re the first person I’ve EVER seen actually affirming weight gain as positive. It means a lot to me. I went from health-threateningly low % body fat to very squishy as part of ED recovery and not a single person praised my weight gain. I got told they were glad I stopped my disordered eating but my weight was never affirmed so it means a lot to see you do so

❤

Congrats on your recovery!!! It’s fantastic that you’re in a place where you’re safe and healthy!

And yeah. The world is full of beautiful people of all sizes, and in situations where being curvier makes people happier or makes them safer or feel better about themselves, or feel hot, then we should celebrate that! I wish people had celebrated that with you, but known that we’re all happy for you now!!!

(I, personally, also think curvier/squishier people are cuter, but again, even if I didn’t, I’d want to cheer for people at whatever size they feel best!)

[It’s Sleepover Saturday]