It’s not Saturday but…I’m beta-ing for someone I connected with through a big bang, and I’d like to ask them if they’d return the favor, but it seems stupidly, insurmountably hard. They’ve been really nice so far, and I know the worst that can happen is they say no, but I take rejection really personally, and I hate to feel like I’m imposing on them. It’s so silly and I’m giving myself needless anxiety over it.

The worst that can happen is definitely that they say no. And if they do, it won’t be because they don’t like you or your writing – they trust you to beta their work, which says they respect your judgement and consider you a good enough writer to point out the problems with their work!

I actually completely understand your nerves though. One of my jobs IRL is actually an editorial one, and even the academics I edit for feel nervous about talking to us! It’s such an intimate thing to ask of someone, and it takes so much time to edit well, so establishing that relationship is sometimes really fraught.

Here’s the good thing: you’ve already got that relationship. You and your friend already both understand how much work goes into editing, and so if they say they can’t do it, it’s definitely because they don’t have time (or possibly skill). There are people who are great writers, but not good editors. It’s to those people’s credit when they realize that they can’t do a good job editing and thus don’t take it on. If your friend refuses, it’s 100% about them, not about your work.

If it’s the way to ask that you’re worried about specifically, here’s a script for you. “I’ve really enjoyed beta’ing for you. I’m actually working on fic right now and I was wondering if you’d be willing to do the same for me. If not, I completely understand!” Short, to the point, and lets them know you get what you’re asking!

You’ve got this!

Hi! I’m sorry to bother you, but you said you don’t mind giving advice and I’m a bit conflicted atm.. the thing is, my best friend likes to stream when playing video games but i.. honestly just don’t enjoy watching people play no matter how much i love them but i don’t know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. Today she was like “where are you when i stream omg” and i feel like a horrible friend because she’d probably drop everything to watch me stream if our roles were reversed

Let me tell you a little story. I know a few twitch streamers and YouTubers. I also know their significant others. Those significant others almost never watch their streams or vids. Why? Because that’s not what their relationship is founded on. They support their SOs jobs, but they don’t go watch things that aren’t interesting to them.

The point of this is that it’s actually super common not to watch your friends stream or their videos. I’m sure if your friend knew that you really don’t enjoy watching streams, she’d absolutely understand. If she’s as good a friend as she seems, she’d never want you to do something you hate.

That being said, it’s also nice to support your friends hobbies or jobs. So what about a compromise. You can tell her “hey X, streams aren’t actually my favorite thing to watch, and I’m super busy right now. Tell me which ones are most important, and I’ll be there for them, but I’m not going to make the rest.” That way, you’re making clear you do want to support her, but also letting her know you’re not going to make every single one.

Creeping Ivy – ravenbringslight – Marvel Cinematic Universe [Archive of Our Own]

raven-brings-light:

Chapters: 5/5
Fandom: Marvel Cinematic Universe, Thor (Movies)
Rating: Explicit
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Loki/Thor
Characters: Loki (Marvel), Thor (Marvel)
Additional Tags: Magical Accidents, Sex Pollen, Fuck Or Die, it’s kind of both?, Sibling Incest, Pre-Thor (2011), Road Trips, Sex, Humor, Feelings Realization, Dubious Consent, technically, it is sex pollen after all, but like, less as a vehicle for dubcon and more as a vehicle for feelings, Happy Ending, Fertility god Thor, Trickster Loki, Magical Bond, Loki is full of shit, Banter, Angst and Fluff and Smut, but very light on the angst, just enough to sweeten everything else, Romance, NSFW Art
Summary:

Loki doesn’t usually make errors involving spellcraft, but he does frequently make errors involving his brother. Today is no exception.

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What Happens When You Accidentally Throw A Fertility God Into The Middle Of A Complicated Magical Working

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MY BIG BANG IS FINALLY HERE 

I nearly died writing the defunct first draft of this which was WAY too angsty for ANYONE, even me, but I greatly enjoyed banging out this much more fun version of it. I hope you have as much fun reading it as I did writing it.

Many thanks to @pangaeastarseed who did AMAZING ASTOUNDING WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL artwork that I treasure daily. Also paging @thorkibigbang.

Creeping Ivy – ravenbringslight – Marvel Cinematic Universe [Archive of Our Own]

approximate-ritual:

thezohar:

aimmyarrowshigh:

alex51324:

closet-keys:

the thing I really like about The Good Place is that it thematically revolves around ethics and what makes a person good or bad (both in the sense of– how do we define good and bad, and in the sense of–what aspects of someone’s formative environment and social group influence how they will treat other people). 

and the conclusion that the show comes to over and over is both that it is possible to become a better person, and because it’s possible we owe it to each other to keep trying to be better– for all eternity if we must

there’s no end to it, and (should I make a prediction) no real “good place” where you’ve gotten to the finish line and “won” at being a good person. it’s an eternal commitment to other people. 

you create your own good place, because whether you’re in a good place or a bad place is defined by how people treat each other. when your community has collectively learned to respect, value, and help each other, you experience the peace and support that you might have once imagined in the abstract being awarded to the truly “good” 

Sartre famously said that the Bad Place is other people.  The Good Place argues that the Good Place is, too.  

That’s because Mike Schur is Jewish.

The underlying theme of all of his shows is essentially chesed (חֶסֶד), which basically translates to loving-kindness. But not just like, loving kindness? But a DUTY to loving-kindness, a duty to tikkun olam, or repairing the world through acts of genuine chesed.

Tahani was committed to good works, but not out of a commitment to loving-kindness. Not for others and, tbh, not for herself, since she spent her whole life feeling “less” than Kamilah. To love others as yourself, you have to love yourself.

Similarly, Chidi was desperately unkind and unloving to himself, and thus denied the *whole world* loving-kindness. TGP shows this in the way Chidi’s thought- and behavior patterns that hurt him throughout his life were also inherently harming the people around him who loved him.

Eleanor purposely acted against loving-kindness, to the point where seeing others engaged in it made her angry.

Jason, honestly, had a very kind and loving soul, but his actions caused harm to others (whether that was his intention or not, and honestly it seems like he mostly just didn’t understand the impact of his choices a lot of the time… but harm is harm).

“You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it,” “learn to do good,” etc. I’m not saying that TGP ~is Jewish, because it’s not, but I AM saying that you can see Schur’s ethical framework in his art, and trying to look at any of his shows through a Christian lens is going to skew them.

Also the whole thing where there’s not really a heaven nor a hell, and that it seems like in The Good Place’s eschatology, actions are ultimately judged solely by the impact they have on others – which I feel like was also one of the main themes of Parks & Rec, and is wrestled with in B99. The highest ethical order is chesed.

Ok now I’m struck by the fact that there’s 4 main humans in this show and for some reason my brain immediately went to the 4 children from the Passover Seder and it fits so well?

Like obvs Chidi seems the choice for the wise and Eleanor fits the wicked, and it’s tempting to say Jason is the ignorant child, but then I realized he spent much of S1 in silence and is the child who cannot ask. Which leaves Tahani as the ignorant child which imo fits as well.

This might be the post that finally makes me watch the show